In one of his most recent shows, Fubar, 75-year-old action star Arnold Schwarzenegger plays the role of an unfaithful and divorced CIA agent. Although there are noticeable differences between the film and his real life, there are also striking similarities. 

Maria Shriver, an American journalist, is former President John F. Kennedy’s niece. According to her, growing up in a family full of famous people made her invisible. “There were a lot of really big characters in that family…If you, as a child, are standing next to the president of the United States, two U.S. senators, and the first lady, nobody’s looking at you,” she explains.

Following the downfall of her 25-year marriage, Shriver revealed that standing next to Schwarzenegger made her feel invisible and angry. She filed for divorce shortly after the actor admitted to infidelity and fathering a son out of wedlock in 2011.

On his part, Schwarzenegger has expressed how difficult and painful his divorce has been. Comparing his real life to Fubar, he said his character in the show wasn’t actually cheating because seducing CIA assets is part of his professional responsibilities. However, he admitted that the failure of his real-life marriage to Shriver was his fault, even though he doesn’t miss being married.

It’s not all tales of gloom as the divorced couple has found a way to maintain a healthy friendship for the sake of their four kids—Katherine, Christina, Patrick, and Christopher. In Schwarzenegge’s words, “If there are Oscars for how to handle divorce, Maria and I should get them for having the least amount of impact on the kids.”